During
my nearly four months in South Africa I met a lot of people, drank a lot of
wine, ate a lot of food, and saw some amazing things, but the absolute
highlight of my trip was a visit to Kayamandi township two days before my
departure. Though I’ve been to Jamestown, the small township across the fence
from Blaauwklippen, I jumped at the opportunity to check out Stellenbosch’s
largest township (over 29,000 residents, nearly all Xhosa) with a local
activist named Selwyn Davidowitz who’s deeply involved in several community
projects there.
Thanks to Selwyn’s involvement in Kayamandi, I got an insider’s look at the life of a township resident. For those not familiar with the term, a township is a neighborhood that was restricted to either black or coloured citizens during apartheid. Though institutionalized apartheid ended fifteen years ago, not much has changed for the majority of township residents. Poverty is extreme: residents are often crammed into tiny makeshift shacks with no running water or electricity and communal toilet and bathing facilities. Social violence is a sad reality and HIV/AIDS infection rates are unacceptably high. Worst of all, the townships have a stigma of danger and depressing images that discourages many whites from ever visiting them.
Car tires get a new life as garden beds, a fine example of Kayamandi ingenuity
This
is a mistake. Despite extreme poverty, there is more joy and hope in Kayamandi
than I’ve experienced anywhere in South Africa. The sense of community is incredible:
unlike in the sterile white suburbs, neighbors actually visit each other daily,
take care of each other’s kids, help each other out. No one exemplifies this
incredible spirit of triumph over adversity better than Lily Ngewexana.
Lily
is a bit of a celebrity in Kayamandi: owner and founder of Once Upon a Stove
homestay, which receives visitors from all over the world, Lily has put
Kayamandi on the map as a destination for travelers interested in learning
about Xhosa culture firsthand. Because of Selwyn’s personal friendship with
Lily, I was able to not only meet her, but try some of her amazing cooking.
Visitors to Once Upon a Stove have the option of taking cooking classes with
Lily as a hands-on way of learning the Xhosa way of life; she explains, “this
is who I am – I want to share my culture through food.” For lunch Lily had laid
out an incredible meal: side dishes made of cooked pumpkin, mealies (corn), and
potatoes, a marvelous chicken curry, and pap, a cornmeal dish similar to grits
which has become one of my new favorites. Totally bland on its own, pap is
meant to be picked up with the fingers, shaped into a ball, and dipped in a
saucy entrée so it becomes edible cutlery. It’s a fun way to eat, and the pap
absorbs the flavors of the food to make a tasty combination of textures. Washed
down with Lily’s homemade ginger beer, a Xhosa specialty, it was a meal to
remember.
Lily shows off her house, the world-famous Once Upon a Stove homestay
With
this lovely hostel and excellent cooking, Lily is the picture of success in
Kayamandi. But she wasn’t always on top of the world: as a young girl she was
sexually assaulted and became pregnant, and had to fend for herself with a baby
in tow, selling used clothing to put food on the table. A few years later she
suffered even greater misery when her husband began abusing her viciously – to
this day her arms are covered with angry scars, painful evidence of her ability
to withstand hardship. Determined to survive, and now with two young girls in
tow and a third on the way, Lily fled her husband’s tyranny and began selling
whatever she could – clothes, household items, food – to support her family.
Eventually she heard of a bank that was hiring collection agents, and she
showed up without an appointment seeking an interview. “They asked me all these
questions I couldn’t answer, like ‘where is your C.V.?” she recalls. “I didn’t
even know what a C.V. is!” Nor could she provide references, having always
worked for herself. Finally the interviewer asked Lily how she dealt with
robberies, a common occurrence, while selling clothes. She replied, “I know
people. I know how to collect my money. I have never once been robbed.” Though
she had no resume, her work experience won over the interviewer, and the next
day she was hired.
After
moving up in the bank and educating her older children, Lily moved back to her
hometown of Kayamandi. Having repossessed a small stove during her work with
the bank which she then purchased, Lily’s cooking career began with a scone
business which funded the building of her house. The finished house became a homestay,
and Once Upon a Stove was born – a B&B where travelers can experience
Kayamandi, volunteering in the community or taking cooking lessons from Lily.
Showing us around her lovely house, Lily’s pride is evident: “Every brick of
this house I built myself!” Her brilliant business skills, truly indomitable
spirit, and hospitality have elevated Once Upon a Stove to international
success: it was featured in the American TV special “1000 Things to Do Before
You Die” and represented at the Food Exhibition in Toronto.
A delightful room at Once Upon a Stove
Lily
is also a tireless community activist. She’s involved in programs in Kayamandi
for education for children, counseling for domestic abuse victims, and other
projects; it’s clear she is a mother to the whole township as well as her four
well-educated daughters. From unimaginable obstacles to international
recognition, Lily has had a truly remarkable life, and spending the afternoon
with her was the most rewarding experience of my trip.
For
more about Lily and Once Upon a Stove, check out the website: http://www.once-upon-a-stove.co.uk/
Kayamandi
has no shortage of grassroots social projects; Selwyn introduced us to a few of
his own special programs, from a trash cleanup effort to a dance club for
youngsters that includes all types of dance styles – including ballroom
dancing! We had a most wonderful surprise when we stumbled upon an adult choir
practicing in the community center: this untrained group sounded like a
professional gospel choir. It was the most uplifting music I’ve ever heard.
Selwyn told the choir that if they could learn how to record a CD and put all
the steps together, he’d produce it for them. “You give me a good product, and
I’ll take it the rest of the way,” he told the choir leader. It was so exciting
to witness the beginning of a project that could take this amazingly talented
choir to the next level. It’s a
perfect example of the can-do spirit and sense of hope that exist in Kayamandi
in abundance – let’s hope this attitude, rather than the doubt and cynicism
that so often taint conversations in South Africa, carry this turbulent but
amazing country into the future.
The kids are cleaning up the neighborhood but not too busy to pose for the camera!
NOTE:
Thanks to the great response I’ve had to this site, and because I’m planning to
return to South Africa next year to do another harvest and some teaching in Kayamandi, I will be keeping
Stellenbauchery updated from my home in the Niagara Escarpment wine region of New York
State. I’ll be reviewing any cool South African wines I drink, covering SA
wine-related events and news, and as usual throwing my little dash of
wine-related politics and social commentary into the mix. Thanks for reading so
far, and stay tuned for more! Cheers!
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